Having a crush on your best friend or anyone else you like can be a very non-romantic feeling. I have had such an experience, and it’s never easy.
The hardest part is confessing your more-than-mutual-friendship interest in her. Perhaps you are just noticing that your coworker who has become your best friend is kind of hot. Or maybe it’s your best friend who has found a special place in your heart.
So, if you are looking for some tips on how to text girls, you have come to the right place.
You may already know how to steer a casual conversation. But there is no need for you to let it go on in the friend direction if you are looking for something more.
I have been a relationship coach and texting expert for some time now. Hence, I understand how things can get complicated when your stomach starts feeling like butterflies whenever you see your best friend. It gets even harder as you and your crush-friend keep hanging out.
Not everyone has the courage to confess such feelings vocally. As such, texts can be a great way to drive the message home.
In this guide, I will be discussing twelve great texts to send to someone you like without looking bad. Note that you can borrow these texts and still get that date you have been yearning for while taking things to the next level.
“Hanging out with you makes me feel special. It’s really great that I have gotten to know you better every day.”
The best thing about texting is you never have to experience the other party’s reaction. You can only guess what they are thinking from the response you get.
If you are in doubt, it would be a great idea to text something you would say to someone who is not your friend or fling for that matter.
This may not be the sexiest text to spark their feelings. However, if your friend is a bit shy, you don’t want to take them on too strongly.
“I always have a good time around you.” This is a bit flirty and yet not necessarily sexual, so can be a great way to start a conversation.
The way you frame your texts should trigger a response. And chances are she will appreciate the compliment, or she will respond with a question that steers the conversation in the direction you want it to go.
“How would you like to grab an ice-cream with me before heading to the concert tonight.”
The main aim of texting should not be to text forever. You want to get a date and have a conversation face-to-face.
It always feels great to hold her hand, observe her reactions, and enjoy her laughter as you sit or walk side-by-side.
Sending this text can be a great way to get her attention. But you have to be sure that she is heading to the activity you have mentioned.
This text can also be a great way to get a date from a girl you just met who has impressed you a lot.
For instance, there could be a music concert in your neighborhood, and you know she likes music. This could be a great way to ask her out.
It seems like a long shot if you have never talked to your crush before, and you may be wondering if she will accept or not. However, it’s always better to try and know at once, than to shy away and regret not having made a move later.
Just be sure to know if the group activity is really on. Otherwise, you may appear to be guessing things, which is not good for first impressions.
“Do you have free time this Saturday? Maybe you would like to join my group on a camping trip.”
Group activities are the best way to get close to the person you like. It can be super fun going out with a pack of friends as it can create the perfect romantic environment for you.
But do not make the mistake of asking her out directly. The aim here is to get her comfortable with you.
Asking her if she is free over the weekend, even if you know she is, is a polite way of showing you respect her space.
Also, be sure to ask politely if she would like to join you in this particular activity. Chances are she may not be a fan of camping, and this should not be a reason for you to end the conversation.
A good tip would be to use something your crush has always talked about doing together. If you have admitted wanting to visit a beach somewhere, it would be a good idea to mention it in your text.
The best thing about this text is that you are sure it will get you a response. Whether she agrees to the trip or not, you will be glad you asked her.
“Hi Cynthia, this is Chris. Save my contact.”
Let’s face it. Not many of us have given our crush our contact information.
If you are one such person, then this text is a perfect icebreaker for you. Whether you know she has your number or not, it is good form to send this text.
Note that this is a text you send immediately after getting her number. Also, you don’t have to expect a response from this text.
If she responds, it could be that she is being polite, which is always a bonus for you. Otherwise, don’t send this message with expectations of a response.
Three crucial features you should not miss in this text:
- Greetings. It is always a great idea to open a text like this one with greetings. It shows that you are polite and caring.
- Her name. A good text message needs to be as personalized as possible. She will be happy to know that you know her name. Also, make sure you get the name right because this is one thing that causes many issues.
- Your name. It’s very important to the person you just met what your name is. They need to know how to save contact on their phone if they have to.
Another important thing about a text like this is the timing. You don’t want to wait too long before sending the icebreaker.
Again, I have to insist that this is a text for someone you are just getting the number from. If it’s your best friend, and you already have her contact, there is no need to tell her this.
“I just saw the photo you uploaded. Looking great as always.”
I was recently talking to someone about sending a text message that gets you a text back. It all comes down to the wording and the topic you choose to address in the text.
This text is one of the best ideas to send your crush. But be very careful how and when you send it.
First, make sure that she has actually uploaded the photo you are referring to. It will not be good to talk about something you are not sure about.
Second, make sure she likes compliments like this one. Some people may feel offended that others have gone through their profile.
Luckily, social media is all about getting likes. Therefore, you should not be too worried about her approval on this one.
This is a text you can send to your crush the day after getting her number. It is also a perfect conversation starter that will get you a good chat for the rest of the evening.
“You will never guess what happened to me today!”
The best way to start a conversation is to trigger it from her side. You don’t want to send one text and call it a day. Or send something that is not interesting.
Think about watching a movie filled with suspense. Your curiosity grows stronger as you want to know what happens next.
It’s the same effect this text will have on the other person. Or you can reframe it and say, “You are not going to believe what just happened.”
If you want to be flirty, it will help you to send something that triggers a specific response. This is the best conversation opener you can ever use on your crush. It’s not too intense, and it will make them feel comfortable.
However, make sure you have an interesting account of your that you are willing to share.
Expect to get a response like, “Wow. Tell me about it.” Or “Was it good or bad.” These are just some of the answers that should tell you they want to know more.
You can go ahead and share the account via text. But that would not be the best idea if you are looking for something more.
Invite her for a cup of coffee. Talking about you can be a great way to have a long conversation. And this is why you should do it while sitting down face-to-face.
“Hey, I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but my feelings toward you are becoming stronger. Can we talk in person?”
Have you noticed that your friend is also becoming closer to you than you expected? Perhaps there is undeniable sexual tension between the two of you, but neither of you is ready to face it yet.
You should take advantage of this feeling and start the conversation. You may be surprised to learn that she has also started developing such feelings, which should only be a bonus for you anyway.
But be very careful about this text, as it can also give the wrong impression. For instance, do not take this conversation too far over text. Take it off the phone and ask for a date.
Also, she may not be having similar feelings, which could be hard for some people to accept. Do not, therefore, get disappointed if she does not respond as you may have anticipated.
- “You are so *compliment* and talking to you makes me feel special.”
Every woman loves to be complimented and appreciated. They like feeling special and that they matter to someone. And that is why this text always works on them.
Is she smart, funny, or charming? Such compliments will get you the date you are looking for and take things to the next level.
You shouldn’t always send her compliments about her physique or appearance. Tell her you enjoy her company, and she will love it.
“Your last comedy show was outstanding.”
We love compliments. If the person you like did something that you found amusing, it would be a great idea to use that as your pick-up line.
This text will not only get you a long conversation, but it can be all you need to secure a date.
“I have a lot to do, but the thought of you keeps distracting me.”
Again, this is a good text to tell the girl that she matters to you more than anything else. If you can leave what you are doing for her, it will sweep her off her feet. She will feel special.
“Can I give you a call at ‘insert time?’
Sometimes texting alone isn’t enough. You may want to talk to her. Calling is another good way of hearing her voice, and getting her to hear yours.
But it’s always polite to ask whether you can call her. This text shows that you care a lot about her opinion.
“I think you are pretty, and I *love* you.”
Sometimes you just have to hit the nail on the head in such a situation. It is ok to let your friend know that you are beginning to have some serious feelings about them.
If you get nervous whenever you want to confess your crush feelings, texting can be a great option. These twelve texts are a perfect way to start the conversation or secure a date.